Keep the marriage not only because of the marriage’s sake. Just so that both can develop in harmony. So, in case you can work with a partner like that, it’s enough already. No need to look elsewhere. Changing always make us very troubled and restless. It’s no good for practicing. But if a marriage makes you even that restless, then you might as well seek peace somewhere else. Understand not? (Yes.)
So, even my teaching is like that, but it’s not like that. You cannot always hold on like a square like this, and say “Master says this. You don’t do it, or you die.” It’s not true. It’s not true. If I’m like that, I’m not worth to be called even a friend, never mind a teacher. So, try to understand the underlying teaching and not always hang on to the letter. For example, I always say sometimes if before initiation you already had two women and you are all right all together, don’t because of the precept “one woman, one man” then cut one. That makes trouble.
My purpose is to bring happiness to you and tranquility to your life, not to cause chaos and upheavals in your love life and business and anything at all. That’s not the purpose. That defeats the purpose in the beginning.
Therefore, when you want to judge somebody or condemn a situation, you have to think carefully, and be flexible all the time, all the time, all the time. You have to see the situation and his inner intention and his level of understanding. If a child cannot walk very fast, you cannot scold him. But if a person who can walk fast and then purposely delays the forward moving of a whole group, then you have to scold him. Understand or not? (Yes.) Yes, yes. But in a spiritual sense it is different because we’re all grown up, so we don’t see anyone as a child or an adult. But actually, the Master sees inside who is a child and who is adult. It’s the inside thing. It’s the inner affair.
Therefore, even though many people do the same thing, but I treat them differently. So just like yesterday you say I treat you the Americans, the occidental people a little bit special and make you embarrassed. Should not be. I know what to do.
Yes, you deserve some special treatment. You came from a different culture and you have gone through a lot of hardships. So, you need a little bit of extra comfort. That’s all right. I’m sorry that I couldn’t give you better treatment because of a lot of other things. So, it is not enough. But I understand that you appreciate a little thing, just a kind of symbolic, that’s enough. Understand? (Appreciate it…)
And I know you understand. So, don’t say I treat you anything special, nothing, nothing. It’s different. Also, you don’t see me that often, you cannot afford to. The Chinese they can see me any time. I’ve been here for many years already. If they don’t see me now they see me later. Or they have seen me for many years already. There’s no need to treat them specially. Also, they live together with me in one country. That makes a difference. They feel already satisfied somewhat. They know that I am here. You came from a very long way, just to see me. So that demands a special devotion from you. Special effort from you in order to be here. So, to be equal to that effort, I do something. That is all. To let you know that I appreciate it. Not that anything special, not that you need that extra chocolate or something else, but you know that I know.